“It’s hard, especially for women,” says Crosskno, a human resources manager who has been with EDS for 16 years and has never been married or had children (“much to my mother’s dismay”). ” This is what we have to deal with just for being single, for taking a different road in life.“Men are still seen as ’bachelors,’ but women are ’old maids.’ People even start questioning your sexual preference if you aren’t married. “ The End of Saturday Night Fever ROGER ALBRIGHT, 43, A DALLAS ATTORNEY WHO HAS NEVER BEEN married, believes it’s more common now than ever for people to stay single into their 30s and 40s.‘There are many men out there who are bored with having meaningless affairs and who want to settle down and have children too,’ he says.‘If a guy is going out with a woman in her late 30s, it is hardly going to be a surprise that she might also want children.’With that in mind, I decided to be honest about my desire for marriage and children — with surprising results.I turned up a few minutes late for one date to find that the guy had already ordered and eaten dinner without me, and I booked myself on a climbing holiday with 14 fit men, only to discover halfway up the highest mountain in North Africa that they were all married.
I felt that to continue going out with him would have been unfair to both of us, so I ended our relationship. Many people — including my mother and best friend — accused me of being too fussy, and said that I should stick with Simon, as he ticked so many boxes.
Her date told her to knock herself out and order anything on the menu.
When she did, going all Out with the fries and the large drink, he swallowed hard and said he wouldn’t be eating. “We can laugh about it now,” says Kim Crosskno, 40, who tried the same dating service as Stephanie, who has since moved to Australia.
I put a classified ad in Private Eye, which read: ‘Fun, attractive female journalist, 38, seeks romantic, sporty, intelligent guy, 30s/40s for adventures and hopefully LTR/marriage/babies/the lot!
’Out of a surprisingly large number of replies, Simon’s stood out.
“The whole video dating experience was really humiliating,” she says, like living in a game of Mystery Date and getting stuck too often with the Dud.