Unless the online dating site is going to go to the extra effort of meeting the single in person, doing a background check, and taking their online profile pictures for them (like Findthe It Factor.com, a personalized dating service), then “verified” means nothing more than the faker has access to a credit card.
There are services that can do background checks for you, if you feel the person is worth looking into further.
You’ll come across as condescending and judgmental. Don’t pretend to have a better job than you do, or that you’re more prepared for long-term commitment than you currently are. Be concise, clear, and watch out for typos and grammatical errors. Related to #6: Don’t be too vague or use too many clichéd phrases. Be careful to screen your photos, too: Don’t upload a pic of yourself in front of your new home, for example. Don’t list the qualities you believe you “deserve.” Instead, focus on what you have to offer. If you can’t put the time into filling out a simple dating profile, why would an interested guy/gal assume you’d put the time investing into getting to know them? My friends could better answer this for you.” Good luck!
Don’t bite the hand that might be feeding you your soulmate. You don’t need to share all your dirty little secrets in your profile, but you shouldn’t use deception to lure dates either. Never list what you’re looking for money-wise or baby-wise in a relationship. Everyone likes “having fun” and would list their musical tastes as “eclectic.” You’re certainly not the only person who “can’t live without oxygen, friends, and family.” Fill your profile with details that reflect you as an individual. Related: Don’t provide a list of dating rules or expectations — unless you don’t want anyone to contact you.
Though I’m sure that’ll change if the fakes care enough to read this article—but don’t worry, they don’t.
It’s not as simple as some online dating services claim it is.
Singles, both men and women, are under attack from the fakes.
They need to make as many contacts as possible—remember it’s a numbers game. You are doing the best you can by being smart and wary of potential fakers. Will enough singles get fed up with the not-so-great state of online dating and demand better from the industry? As a contributor to online dating industry forums, I continue to bring up the issues associated with fake profiles: liars, thieves and cheats, and the accountability of the industry for a solution.
Even if you put on your profile in bold letters, “No Fakers or Sex Industry Professionals,” it won’t help. My suggestion for your first contact, if you’re worried they’re not telling the truth, is to ask them outright. The standard industry reply is that “it’s not cost effective” and that “singles won’t pay for it.” Well, singles are “paying for it” in time, frustration, dissatisfaction and with their wallets.
There are a few profile-writing strategies to optimize the likelihood of interest from potential matches. Keep in mind the rules of first-date conversation and apply them to how you introduce yourself to strangers online, too. Keep your profile upbeat and focused on all the great things you have to offer and are looking for in a new relationship.