Dating consultants will create your online dating profile, surf the sites for potential dates, handle all communication with people you want to pursue (e-mails are approved beforehand) and even plan the date, down to the clothes you wear and the place you go for dinner.“They handle the logistical aspect of it so you can focus on meeting people,” says Rick, a 37-year-old marketing executive from Miami who asked that his last name not be used (he’s currently using one of these services).“I think it’s a scary trend for a lot of different reasons,” says Tiia Jones, a 41-year-old teacher from Seattle who writes a blog about online dating.“For me, those first e-mails are absolutely critical. I wouldn’t like not being the one communicating and expressing my voice and my personality — but more importantly, I want the stuff coming from that person.“I’ve personally tested what happens and I haven’t had great results.Some women laugh about it and think it’s funny and sneaky and it doesn’t bother them.Online dating didn’t used to be acceptable.” But even Valdez, founder of Virtual Dating Assistants.com, acknowledges that some people might feel squishy about a date connecting with them through his service.“We usually advise our clients not to disclose (that they’ve used our service),” he says.
So I found someone on Craigslist to handle my online dating accounts and it worked out great.But the idea of them ghostwriting your communication …that’s the piece that will start to damage trust.” But online dating — with its mandatory profiles and back-and-forth e-mails — can sometimes be intimidating, say some singles, especially for people who aren’t particularly good with words.Many singles have also turned to sites like E-Cyrano or Look Better Online to have professionals ghostwrite their online dating profiles. “I gave my mom my password and had her going through profiles for me,” says Paige, the Philadelphia marketing guru.“She was never allowed to write anyone but she sifted and sorted for me because I had so many. I couldn’t keep up.” Trust issues But is turning to a third party to find a date, contact a date and even carry on a correspondence with a date somehow cheating?They help him write the girl and then he can be funny and flirty in real life.” What would she think if somebody hired a third party to woo her? If I was on the receiving end, I’d probably be like ‘Oh, that’s not really you. You’re a dud.’ And that would suck.” Of course, dating concierges aren’t the only sock puppets out there furthering someone’s romantic suit.